Have you ever stopped to think about the questions you ask yourself on a daily basis? In an average day between 50,000 and 60,000 thoughts go through our heads. That is a lot! Of these 80% will be negative and 75% will be repetitions. Many of these negative thoughts are set up by the questions we ask ourselves about a situation. For example, "Why can't I get a good job?" "How come everyone else's life is better than mine?" The thing about questions is that what ever they ask, the way the brain is programmed, it will go into overdrive to provide evidence to back up the question either in the negative if it is a negative question or positive if it is a positive question. This is often the reason why two people who have experienced the same traumatic event or come from the same background can have very different lives. It is the power of the questions they ask themselves that define their interpretation of the event and thus their future.
Now that you are aware of the brains response to questions, a very good and effective exercise is to think about the questions you have asked yourself in the past and the way your brain responded to them and make a note of your answer. Then for the next week, make a note of every single question that pops into your head about yourself and how you responded. If you find yourself asking negative questions, have a think about how you could rephrase the question to put the brain into overdrive to get a positive answer. For example, turn "Why can't I get a good job?" INTO "How can I get a good job?" "What are my best skills, personal attributes etc, that I can offer a new employer?"
This simple exercise can be done for any area of your life. Now that you know this effective tool, go away and experiment with it. You will be amazed at the power it has to change your life.
Article by Karina Bowlby, Peak Performance Consultant at Mindtime Consulting